Age Play: The Truths and The Myths
Introduction
Hi my name is Melissa but I am better known as missy. My talk today is ****** Ageplay: The Truths and The Myths. In choosing that *****, I know I am kind of misleading you, since basically I am only going to discuss one myth and I recognize that what is truth for one is not necessarily the same as the truth for another.
I dont pretend to know everything there is about ageplay nor do I even view myself as an expert. Having said that, I have been involved with all aspects of ageplay since the early 1980s and today I would like to share my thoughts and opinions with you. I leave it up to you to decide what is true for you and hopefully I can dispel some of your own myths.
Myths
So lets start with a brief discussion of what is a myth. For this discussion, I will define a myth as "any unscientific account, theory or belief" (source: Websters New World Dictionary ). You have all probably heard a few of these in your own time such as:
? All *** males are effeminate
? All crossdressors are ***
? The BDSM lifestyle is just about pain
I certainly dont know where these originate, but in general, they seem to be believed by a lot of people. What I do know is that these beliefs are not based on fact, or any scientific account. They are usually based on unrepresentative samples or stereotypes and are espoused by so-called experts who have enough credibility with the general public to be believed.
Thankfully the Gerry Springers of the world are becoming more of a comedy act than truth sayers. However that doesnt mean that we are out of the woods or free and clear. There are still certain professionals out there that think they know better than anyone else even though their opinions are for the most part based solely on their clientele.
The Biggest Age Play Myth
So having ranted on that, whats the biggest ageplay myth?
It is that ageplay involves real ******** and/or ageplayers have latent ********** tendencies.
This statement is completely untrue. ********** is when an ***** prefers choosing an ACTUAL ***** for a ****** partner. Certainly, as in all communities, be them the BDSM, the local church, school, police, government, etc part of communities, there likely is a percentage of ageplayers that are pedophiles.
To deny that would be complete silliness, however, ageplayers are usually strong and out spoken advocates against ***** abuse of any form not just ****** but mental and emotional abuse too. There is absolutely no tolerance for pedophiles in the ageplay community as in a similar vain there is no tolerance for abuse in the BDSM community.
Dont mistake an ageplayers interest in ***** like things, games, clothes, shoes, colouring, etc for interest in real ********. We dont involve real ********, just emulate them for reasons that I hope will become clearer later in this discussion.
What is Ageplay?
So what is ageplay? The answer to that is as diverse as you would get if you asked different lifestylers what is BDSM. It depends on who you talk to what answer you will get.
So I am going to take a simplistic position and just say ageplay, is where one party plays at being an age usually 18 or under.
The Ageplay Players
There are basically two types of ageplayers: those that like to play in a ***** role (***** for short) and those that like to portray an ***** authority figure (***** for short).
The ***** authority figure can be one of many. Some common ones are Mommy, Daddy, Aunt, Uncle, Teacher, Nanny, Principal, Coach, Nurse, Doctor, etc. The key is that it must be an ***** role, where there is some inherent control over the *****.
Sometimes, but rarely, you will get two ******** age playing together, where there is an implied sense of control but control really doesnt exist. Older brother and older sister are two such roles. The older sibling does not really have control over their younger brother or sister but just by the nature of the relationship there is some sense of control. It maybe just that the younger sibling looks up to their older brother/sister and naturally follows "orders" or it could just be a bratty older sibling trying to take control.
The ***** role can be divided into many categories but I am going to keep it simple. So for simplicity sake, I will divide it into 3 groups: baby/toddler, preteens and teenager roles.
? baby/toddler
f This group is commonly known as ***** Babies (A/B). The fetish is known as Paraphilic Infantilism or simply Infantilism. Those that play the ***** role are commonly known as Diaper Lovers (D/L). The term D/L is also used for anyone that is supportive of the A/B group but may not participate in this type of ageplay.
f Thanks to the efforts of various individuals and groups, notably:
Tommy of Diaper Pail Fraternity (DPF) -
http://www.dpf.com/
Baby Mikey of Big Baby World (BBW)
Mommy Carolyn of Carolyns Kids -
http://www.homestead.com/carolynskids/
Those interested in infantilism were able to come out of the closet and share their interests, opinions and concerns with others. The internet has helped tremendously in bringing A/Bs out of the closet and there is literally hundreds of A/B related sites now. There are variety of personal, story and chat sites as well as clubs and suppliers of A/B clothes and products. Many an ***** product supplier has jumped on the band wagon and now offer an A/B line.
f It appears that there is a much higher percentage of male A/Bs then females. One estimate I read said that 99% of A/Bs were male. Personally I think this is a little high but to say that there are few female A/Bs is a truism.
f This is likely the only ageplay group where one can go pretty much 24/7. With the latest products, one can pretty much wear a diaper all the time. The excuse of incontinence is always available if you get caught.
f Because of the intimate contact and/or focus on the use of diapers, there appears to be a significant level of ******/****** touching for most A/Bs and/or masturbation amongst the males.
? preteen
f Commonly known as the little boy or little girl group in ageplay.
f The mindset seems to be one of a prepubescent *****, who has to varying degrees has gone beyond the baby/toddler stage. Thats not to say that there cannot be a level of regression or being "babyish" at times.
f For those that play at the younger ages in this group, there can be a degree of diaper play too. Usually the "scene" starts with the little boy/girl having an accident necessitating the decision to put him/her back into diapers until he/she can learn to control the bodily functions.
f In this group, there appears to be a much higher percentage of females then males.
f By the nature of the age of the *****, there tends to be little or no ******/****** play. This is not to say that ageplay, for some, is not a form of ****** foreplay. Those that I have heard that use ageplay as ****** foreplay also say that when it comes to more intimate ****** acts, they revert back to ***** mode.
? teen
f All ******** have a health curiousity about *** and much to their