Maybe I was an early bloomer but I'd say around 21-22, I started really taking more responsibility. I realized, while outside influences will always play a role in life, you are ultimately responsible for what you do with it. Sure, somethings do just happen to you... It's really not your fault if, say, it starts raining suddenly. Sure, other people are responsible for the roles. However, you are responsible for yours and you can't blame that on anyone else. You may not be responsible for a tornado tearing up your house, but if you chose to live in a tornado zone, then that's really on you. You can't blame anyone else for that.
I was hurt by people, but I put myself in those situations and trusted those people. Sure, my parents were... quite frankly, not great parents, but I could either be bitter and angry, act out and self destruct or learn from their mistakes so that I'd be a better parent for my kid than they were to me. Sometimes you really are just roadblocked by your situation and it's no one's fault. Sometimes taking responsibility means just accepting the situation for what it is, and doing your best.
There's no magic age, certainly. It comes for self awareness and maturity. No one can make you do anything, you always own your actions and therefore the consequences...
Maybe I was an early bloomer but I'd say around 21-22, I started really taking more responsibility. I realized, while outside influences will always play a role in life, you are ultimately responsible for what you do with it. Sure, somethings do just happen to you... It's really not your fault if, say, it starts raining suddenly. Sure, other people are responsible for the roles. However, you are responsible for yours and you can't blame that on anyone else. You may not be responsible for a tornado tearing up your house, but if you chose to live in a tornado zone, then that's really on you. You can't blame anyone else for that.
I was hurt by people, but I put myself in those situations and trusted those people. Sure, my parents were... quite frankly, not great parents, but I could either be bitter and angry, act out and self destruct or learn from their mistakes so that I'd be a better parent for my kid than they were to me. Sometimes you really are just roadblocked by your situation and it's no one's fault. Sometimes taking responsibility means just accepting the situation for what it is, and doing your best.
There's no magic age, certainly. It comes for self awareness and maturity. No one can make you do anything, you always own your actions and therefore the consequences. It's okay to ask for help, but you need to not be blaming everyone and everything else all the time. People get sick of it and they don't respect you for it. It makes you seem ********. People are more likely to help you if you come to them humbly and admit that you need help and that you put yourself in whatever situation.
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