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Today, as I stepped out for a sec to fetch the mail, I noticed a mother taking her twin girls (about ages of 2) out for a walk. The mother was yapping away on her cell phone while she had the two girls on leashes.

LEASHES!!!

What kind of people have we turned into the put our ******** in leashes? I mean...that's like treating them no better than your dogs!! I don't care how restless and uncontrolable they might get.

There's a thing called a stroller! Or even better...don' take them out. That way...they learn. They think 'oh wow...when i act up i don't get to go out and have fun. Let me behave so I don't get strapped into the stroller or taken home.

And that, boys and girls, is called parenting.


Oh and these girls...were so adorable and so sweet. I just...I don't get it. It's like, as a parent, you've given up and just don't want to deal with the resposibilities of actually being a parent. One of the girls was sniffling and trying to take the offending thing off while the other one (oh *** bless her did I ever want to run up to the mother at the moment and smack her) ...the other one looked at me with puppy dog eyes and a quivering lip as if begging me to help her.

This just...made me feel so sick to my stomach. I couldn't see myself doing that to my future ********.

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Ever see a kid get hit by a car? I have. That sort of thing leaves a lasting impression.

My wife was adamant against using a restraint harness on our daughter... until the baby learned to walk, and my wife could see how quickly ******** move from those first few precious steps to blink-and-they're-off.

Best part is, when in the baby section at Target, my daughter wanted badly the same harness/leash I was planning on getting her the following week.
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First of all, don't pretend you know everything about parenting when you are not even a parent yourself, yet. I am the mother of an 1 1/2 year old boy that has, naturally, a huge amount of energy. My husband and I are now expecting twins and I am not as mobile right now as I used to be. I would rather put a harmless, soft ***** restraint on my son than watch him run into the street or another area of danger.

Don't judge. That's just a byproduct of ignorance..and sometimes arrogance.
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Next time you are out with another *****, raise your arm straight up and keep it raised the whole time. Tiring, isn't it? And stay close to the other *****, no more than 6 inches from their side, no matter what you want to look at or touch. Frustrating, isn't it? That's what a *****'s outing is like. It's no wonder they get quickly tired and fussy.

Don't think of it as a leash. Think of it as a tether. I used a tether with my daughter 35 years ago. It had nothing to do with discipline or lack thereof. It had to do entirely with her comfort (both arms and hands free) and her ability to explore. She could look at things, she could range ahead of me or drop back to explore a flower. She could run circles around me. A tether is not restriction --- it's freedom.

Daughter remembers her tether, and the feelings of both safety and freedom it gave her, and she intends to use one with her new daughter, as soon as she's walking. Daughter and SIL hike in the woods a lot. A backpack when the nugget is tired, and a tether when she's in exploring mood, is ideal.
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I NEVER comment on things like this but I just couldn't resist. These persons that refer to the use of a ***** harness as something degrading or the result of lazy parenting have never met a ***** like my youngest. I get so tired of hearing people judge others for making decisions regarding the health and safety of their own *****. I actually have not used a harness but my google search that brought this discussion up occurred as a result of my son, once again, wandering away from my side yesterday afternoon.

Perhaps you never had ******** of your own or perhaps it hasn't been a while since your ******** were this small but one size does not fit all when it comes to parenting. You see, my son is autistic. For those of you that know something about the nature of autism (and obviously some of you do not), it effects a *****'s sense and awareness of their surroundings. You may tell my son a thousand times that he could be hit by a car but if he happens to slip into what we call "his little world", he is unlikely to register that he is in harms way quickly enough. He also doesn't always understand the consequences of dangerous situations like a car accident, drowning or ***** abduction so even logical reasoning doesn't help him to stay focused on his surroundings either. ...



I NEVER comment on things like this but I just couldn't resist. These persons that refer to the use of a ***** harness as something degrading or the result of lazy parenting have never met a ***** like my youngest. I get so tired of hearing people judge others for making decisions regarding the health and safety of their own *****. I actually have not used a harness but my google search that brought this discussion up occurred as a result of my son, once again, wandering away from my side yesterday afternoon.

Perhaps you never had ******** of your own or perhaps it hasn't been a while since your ******** were this small but one size does not fit all when it comes to parenting. You see, my son is autistic. For those of you that know something about the nature of autism (and obviously some of you do not), it effects a *****'s sense and awareness of their surroundings. You may tell my son a thousand times that he could be hit by a car but if he happens to slip into what we call "his little world", he is unlikely to register that he is in harms way quickly enough. He also doesn't always understand the consequences of dangerous situations like a car accident, drowning or ***** abduction so even logical reasoning doesn't help him to stay focused on his surroundings either. He wanders off from time to time very quickly, not because he is trying to escape or misbehave, it's simply because in one quick moment he becomes completely unaware that I am standing near by and believes he's actually following me out of the building and into danger.

Trust me, I have tried everything. I have cried, pleaded, yelled, and yes, even spanked...You can not isolate a ***** because they are different. I can not keep my youngest son from going to school, going to birthday parties, going to the park because he struggles with sensory and social issues. He is doing so much better simply because I refuse not to isolate him. He's a happier, more well adjusted ***** because he's learning how to manage outside of the home.

So please, the next time you judge a parent's actions, the next time you are tempted to lecture someone on parenting, remember that ******** come in all varieties. Please remember that some of us are just trying to do what we think is best to keep our ******** safe and secure and that sometimes that might even involve a ***** harness.
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I agree with you. My twins have ADHD and they have no awareness of safety. They scare me so much when we go to a store because all they think about it running. I have not tried the harness yet but we are going to disney and was wanting to get something. They do not listen to us when we tell them to stop sometimes. And one parent said to leave them at home to they learn. Really. She has no compassion for special need ******** but parents that do have them, it is their job to keep them safe.
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Honestly, I have not a ***** yet. however we are working on that. (issues with getting pregnant).
In my Opinion, ***** leashes are a bad idea if you yourself as a parent just don't give two dams from a beaver's age. If you don't care about your ***** or want to go out and get a "man" or "have fun" somewhere where a ***** shouldn't be, don't bother taking them. find a babysitter. Don't be some sort of estranged person calling yourself a parent leashing your ***** just because it keeps them close and you are simply "stuck" with them.

Strollers are useful yes. very much so. However there are MANY ******** that can refuse to stay in. What if your ***** is autistic and doesn't understand" What if your ***** has ADD or ADHD? They won't sit for very long. Strollers will keep them in for a very very short time if this is the case.
However if you have a bad tempered *****, you cannot just lock yourself up in a **** in the house because you simplty just can't do it. Especially as a single parent. Yes discipline is key, but a lot of ******** nowadays have certain problems that no matter what they cannot or will not listen. Discipline does take time.

My opinion is this. If you are at a zoo, take a stroller along, and when the ***** gets rowdy or does not want to sit, a leash is useful (...











































Honestly, I have not a ***** yet. however we are working on that. (issues with getting pregnant).
In my Opinion, ***** leashes are a bad idea if you yourself as a parent just don't give two dams from a beaver's age. If you don't care about your ***** or want to go out and get a "man" or "have fun" somewhere where a ***** shouldn't be, don't bother taking them. find a babysitter. Don't be some sort of estranged person calling yourself a parent leashing your ***** just because it keeps them close and you are simply "stuck" with them.

Strollers are useful yes. very much so. However there are MANY ******** that can refuse to stay in. What if your ***** is autistic and doesn't understand" What if your ***** has ADD or ADHD? They won't sit for very long. Strollers will keep them in for a very very short time if this is the case.
However if you have a bad tempered *****, you cannot just lock yourself up in a **** in the house because you simplty just can't do it. Especially as a single parent. Yes discipline is key, but a lot of ******** nowadays have certain problems that no matter what they cannot or will not listen. Discipline does take time.

My opinion is this. If you are at a zoo, take a stroller along, and when the ***** gets rowdy or does not want to sit, a leash is useful (Harness) due to the fact that it is so busy there, there could be someone watching you or your ***** that will want to kidnap him. It occurs very often in busy places.
But another idea in my opinion after having years experience with kids since age 7, if you are looking at an animal from high up above (because many animals now have large drops over the railing) I'd prefer the leash as a safety. Because if the ***** tries or decides to try and get closer, I'd prefer to be able to pull him back up if necessary rather than having him fall and possibly die. You can hold your *****,watch your *****, even discipline your *****, however it doesn't always work. If a ***** decides to jump, they will.
******** leashes have no excuses really unless you are just a parent that doesn't care and only uses it because you are stuck with the *****. That I find WRONG in every which way.

Cjildren leashes (Harnesses) do have their excuses. However you can never watch a ***** twenty four seven. if you need laundry done, you cannot watch him. Dishes, can't always watch him. Shower, you can't always watch him.
If you are going on a walk, yes I agree try a stroller. But if they want to walk in a busy area (even if you take the stroller with you), Use the Harness. It is simple easy and effective and I am sorry, but any normal parent would believe that a harness is useful in these kinds of situations outside the home. I don't ever want to see a kid hit by a car because you're not paying attention. But as proven the other day to me, you can watch him like a hawk, turn for literally two seconds and he can say "Oooh fun! Let's run away t mess with mommy!". The ***** nearly got hit, however he did not due to quick reflexes.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to watch a ***** twenty four seven even if you have all safety features in your home or wherever you are at.
You can use strollers but by the age of two most know how to get out.
If they can make a stroller very guaranteed to make sure the ***** can't get out (which they haven't) then it is impossible to keep them in.
I'd rather the leash then no "safety" at all. Now if your ***** listens, then don't bother with it. As long as they listen you are fine, normally. However i would keep a standby if disciplining doesn't work.
Many parents can discipline all they want, unfortunately unless you literally beat a *****, it doesn't always cross their mind to listen.
I'd keep one handy.

Though for most reason they can seem unwarranted, it doesn't mean they aren't a great addition to ***** safety.
A leash is helpful in busy areas like Airports, certain large zoos, very large parks, and of course busy busy streets.
A stroller can always help so much but since one was not created to keep the ***** literally locked in full force no way of getting out, it is impossible to always keep a stroller on hand.
I have a friend who has a *****. He listens perfectly fine most of the time. However every ***** gets the urge to play and run when they aren't supposed to esp[ecially when energy is built up.
So honestly in my opinion, don't judge so harshly until you realize yourself it is needed. When you have a kid three seconds away from ebing hit by a car and you aren't lucky enough to have a savior, don't judge. I saved a *****. I have "saved" many from being hit by cars.
As always remember, for reasons like going out on dates, trying to find a man, or trying to get a date and you have an unwanted ***** or you have an i don't care attitude, don't bother with one. find a babysitter or just DON'T go out. That's what makes you a horrible parent while using the leash.
But for busy areas, when you have multiple things to do, or a smart ***** that can get out of anything, A leash is always handy to have on hand just in case. Because not every ***** will sit for long periods of time.
Not every ***** will stay put
and you can't always watch them twenty four seven no matter what you do.
Discipline only goes so far in a small *****'s brain. Honestly you could be an abusive parent and still until older ages, they can refuse to listen.
Life isn't perfect but if it is a world versus a small *****, I'd take the leash as back up.
I don't want any ***** to run into the street like I have seen so many do around my friend's neighborhood.
Leash is helpful for great purposes especially busy areas.
Don't use one on a date. THAT"S AN EXCUSE.
Using one for needs on busy streets or because your ***** can't stay in his stroller and can remove himself THAT"S NOT AN EXCUSE. It's a great idea. No parent should ever lose a ***** because two seconds they had to look away.
Kid's react fast. no doubt about it.
It's not an excuse at all to use one. Yeah it seems degrading but it is not. It's only degrading when the parent uses it to keep you around just because.
NOT when a parent lives near a busy street with no fenceor you happen to be in a busy area of town or a city.
I'd rather the ***** be safe than a parent have to be sorry, and then blame themselves
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when you have a ***** that is reckless and do not listen and are very fast, wouldn't you rather keep them safe from running out into traffic or other dangers? Some ******** do not have the "danger" light go onaving a "busy" ***** is very stressful and if there is a way to make it easier for them to stay safe, why not use it?
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Disgusted, no. Incredibly entertained by it, yes! I don't care how parents choose to raise their own ********. But if they put a leash on them I can't help but take a picture. www.*****************.com is one of my guilty pleasures :) choose raise children leash picture www childrenonleashes guilty pleasures
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Exactly! People without ******** or with "well behaved" ******** have NO idea what it's like. I have my almost 3 years old son on my own 95% of the time. He is very busy, and any tactict I have tried to get him to listen today has failed. Today he literally took off and disappeared in the mall. security had to be called. Was I watching him? Yes. They are fast and before you know it you can't find them. He is getting a leash.
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You must care about those dogs than these ********! Why else do we put leashes on them? To keep them safe and others! SMH!
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Well behaved ******** is something anyone can have with a good amount of time and discipline. A family of four ********, all of us are behaved. Six grandchildren and all of them are well behaved. Not one of the young ones have ever run off, And more than one has ADHD. Making excuses is old.
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Wow! I beg to differ. You have no right to sit and judge...and I know, because I used to do the same thing. I had 2 perfect little angels that I didn't even have to get cupboard safety catches for because they never got into anything....most of the time did what they told, and were taught at a very young age "the naughty seat." The would stop what they were doing before I even got to the count of "2". Then came #3. I treated him exactly like the first 2, but he just has a totally different personality. I read books, cried to myself, wondered where I was going wrong....but you know what? Everybody is different. My youngest ***** was opening deadbolts and going outside before he was even 2....I bought flip locks for all our doors and just thank *** he hasn't felt like pushing a chair over and try to reach them. I also used to stuff my nose up in the air when I would see parents using tethers on their ********, but now, I have a whole new perspective. You can not ********* tethering a ***** to that of a dog or animal....it is not treating your ***** like a pet, it is keeping them safe. I have not used a tether on my 2 year old yet, but will this weekend when my family goes to an amusement park. And to the comment someone made about just staying inside until they lear...
Wow! I beg to differ. You have no right to sit and judge...and I know, because I used to do the same thing. I had 2 perfect little angels that I didn't even have to get cupboard safety catches for because they never got into anything....most of the time did what they told, and were taught at a very young age "the naughty seat." The would stop what they were doing before I even got to the count of "2". Then came #3. I treated him exactly like the first 2, but he just has a totally different personality. I read books, cried to myself, wondered where I was going wrong....but you know what? Everybody is different. My youngest ***** was opening deadbolts and going outside before he was even 2....I bought flip locks for all our doors and just thank *** he hasn't felt like pushing a chair over and try to reach them. I also used to stuff my nose up in the air when I would see parents using tethers on their ********, but now, I have a whole new perspective. You can not ********* tethering a ***** to that of a dog or animal....it is not treating your ***** like a pet, it is keeping them safe. I have not used a tether on my 2 year old yet, but will this weekend when my family goes to an amusement park. And to the comment someone made about just staying inside until they learn to behave, paleeze! Again with the judging. So...stop looking at it as a form of abuse and instead as an act of love because we want to protect our ******** and can't fathom the idea of something terrible happening to them.
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Your kids learn everything they see. Ever think ******** blink their eyes at different times, learn different things? They're going to be different no matter what but what you do in front of them and allow is what they will learn.
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I am glad your ******** are well behaved not everyone is that lucky. We have tried everything with my ADHD boys and they will not listen to woping, that dont phase them to timeouts.
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You must have an incredibly boring family. Either that, or you are a tyrant....
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Boring because we BEHAVE? There are ways to have and be fun that don't include being rowdy, obnoxious and misbehaving. Haha! We have a smart one here guys....
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I completely agree with you!
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Strapping a ***** into a car seat with a harness so they can ****** move a muscle while driving for hours is not somewhat cruel? It's about safety folks. Something’s just have to be done. If it takes a tether to keep your ***** safe, then go for it. Then teach them about staying with you, while they are safely remaining in your sight. Yes, some will abuse them, but some abuse everything. Keeping ******** safe is the most important part.
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to all the people who think its ok to put a leash on your kids,id like to wrap a leash around your neck and pull on it every time you think about putting it on your *****.theyre not slaves,theyre not dogs or cats or anything else that requires a leash.theyre human beings.
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I think ***** harnesses are a good idea. I don't have ******** myself, but have enough nieces and nephews to know that one conversation about not running off is not going to deter a ***** from doing so. Life is different than it was 10, 20, 30+ years ago, especially considering that many workplaces feel they should be able to contact you about work at any odd hour and everyone is getting less sleep and therefore less alert during the day that it is a problem. I would much rather put my ***** in a harness than spank them for running off. The reason I don't like spanking is because I don't want to teach ******** it's ok to hit others when you're upset/frustrated/angry. There can also be a case made for disabled parents who can't just get up and chase their ***** down.....I have a bad back, so I have experience with this issue. A harness is much safer than just hoping they don't run out into oncoming traffic and then being horrified when they get hit. Parents are only human just like everyone else, so to all those high and mighty ones out there, I guarantee you've made your own fair share of mistakes as a parent, so let's not pretend you are June Cleaver.
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Wow! Over a discussion on ***** leashes (safety harnesses).
It's you who is dying by the looks of it. Hahahaha.
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As a parent of am impulsive ***** I agree that harnesses are s good idea. Every ***** is different. I raised my niece who held me hand in crowds and gave me no trouble at all. When I had my son he was different. He has sensory processing issues which make it difficult for him to understand instructions or the reasoning behind why he can't run off in a crowd. He is three years old and can get away very quickly and because of his sensory issues will fight you to let go of his hand because he does not like that feeling of people touching him continuously. We did not agree with harnesses for a long time and even scoffed when we saw ppl using them until we dealt with these issues with my son. I fear that he could very lost in a crowd or take by someone or hurt and we have recently been debating on buying one
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Using a leash (harness) is no less treating a kid like an animal than a crib, high chair (with restraint), or a car seat.
Kids don't always want to hold your hand, or be babied / coddled.
I have used a leash, or harness, with all my kids & they loved the fact that they could venture away from my grip. It gives them an illusion of independence & builds confidence.
I have no doubts at all that no kid ever feels degraded ... or at least no more than when mommy wipes their face too **** or kisses them to often or one of the other embarrasing things parents do.
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***** leashes are disgusting and treating ******** like animals.. How about hold their hand? At least that shows affection! I would rather have my son be embarrassed by me holding his hand then have him be treated like a dog! Poor babies :(
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Oh pull your head out of your a$$ and stop being such a little b!tch. Life with kids isn't black and white. You can always tell who has no kid with a comment like this. Once you have kids then by all means feel free to pitch into the conversation. Until then, don't talk about things you have no clue about.
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I think these ***** leashes are dreadfull. Makes my blood boil when I see a poor ***** on a leash like a dog,which our ******** are not. Our ******** are not animals. Our kids should not have to be put on a lead because a Parent / ***** is incapable of taking charge an control of an innocent ***** an teaching them properly! As a parent an a ***** it is our duty to teach our ******** correct behaviour including a simple thing like not running of. We have to teach our kids self discipline an self control. Being put on a lead does not teach our ******** these important qualities! It is not the *****'s fault because an ***** cannot parent right!!!! In my book there are no excuses for having your ***** on a lead. Using the safety factor as a reason is a cop out. Again as a parent / ***** it is our duty to teach our ******** how to be safe in life. Again putting our ******** on leashes does not teach then safety!!!! Parents be parents an teach you ******** well!
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What a self righteous rant !
I guarantee YOU that my kids, like most others, are disciplined & educated & cared ... they are not, however, molly coddled. They are taught self respect & confidence.
If your kids, or you for that matter, are so put out by a 'safety harness' then it is YOU who needs you re-examine your philosophy ... not the rest of the good, normal parents.
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please die
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Hopefully your blood will boil until you have a stroke, then no one will have to put up with more idiotic comments like this.
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Don't knock it until you actually know what can go wrong with a fast moving inquisitive ***** in a busy place. ******** can slip away or be lured off in an instant to be hurt, lost or kidnapped. We know from our experience with own ******** and grandchildren and those of many friends the horror situations that can easily arise through a momentary distraction; deliberate or inadvertant. J
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It's such a safe device! It's for safety! It's to help keep and eye on them! Wt* ever!! My ***** is not a dog! Great so to add on to my wall hanger, where my keys and 2 chihuahuas leashes are, I have to add my *****'s leash too.

Here let me take my dogs and ***** to the park to get some exercise! Oh honey don't forget there the dogs and my *****'s leash where they don't run off! I'm such a good parent! I don't need to keep an eye on my kid because I have them and my dog on a leash.

Really? That's what I have to say to be a good parent!?

And it's best to use because you can use it were You don't want you ***** to get snatch by a ****** predator?
Wow. They can still be snatch! Cut that leash and your baby's gone honey!

A good parent should always keep there ***** in arms reach or close distance of your person. A good parent never let's there ***** run off. A good parent should never take an eye or grasp of there ***** off of there *****.

My baby is not a animal. I'm a good mother and a good protector!
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For those of you who say that they're horrible, you're going to wish you had your ***** on a leash if they ran off and got hit by a car or got abducted by some person. Here are my two cents on this topic. I'm not even a parent and even I know that it's impossible to have an eye on your ***** 24/7 when you're doing other businesses, like I don't know, shopping for groceries so that your ***** has something to eat when they get home? This has been said before, but I'm going to say it again, you can discipline your ******** to become perfect little angels, but that process of disciplining doesn't work for every *****, as every ***** is different with different personalities. People just have to accept that some kids really are hyperactive even when they've had the best "training". Also, some people have more than just two kids to worry about! AND it's not really about demeaning the ***** or, treating it like a dog or not trusting him/her, it's more about not trusting the people around him/her. I agree, some people do abuse these "leashes" by getting too comfortable with them, not watching the ***** because of the leash, and that pulling/yanking of it is something I can't stand, but still. BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY.

I'm really not trying to offend people who are against these leashe...
For those of you who say that they're horrible, you're going to wish you had your ***** on a leash if they ran off and got hit by a car or got abducted by some person. Here are my two cents on this topic. I'm not even a parent and even I know that it's impossible to have an eye on your ***** 24/7 when you're doing other businesses, like I don't know, shopping for groceries so that your ***** has something to eat when they get home? This has been said before, but I'm going to say it again, you can discipline your ******** to become perfect little angels, but that process of disciplining doesn't work for every *****, as every ***** is different with different personalities. People just have to accept that some kids really are hyperactive even when they've had the best "training". Also, some people have more than just two kids to worry about! AND it's not really about demeaning the ***** or, treating it like a dog or not trusting him/her, it's more about not trusting the people around him/her. I agree, some people do abuse these "leashes" by getting too comfortable with them, not watching the ***** because of the leash, and that pulling/yanking of it is something I can't stand, but still. BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY.

I'm really not trying to offend people who are against these leashes or make it seem like I'm degrading these ********, but you really can't judge these parents who take extremes for the safety of their ********! You can't just ****** that these parents are careless and don't pay attention. Are you going to accuse a parent of not watching their ***** attentively when, if, you see it with your own eyes that a ***** CAN rip their hand out of their parent's hand and see him/her encounter a threat?! I THINK NOT.
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wah wah wah.....did your parents have you on a leash? Were cars around when you were born? Have you lived to have kids? I guess there was a skill back then called parenting.....and I guess its not genetic....
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At a certain age ******** WANT to walk like a "big kid" and I personally refuse to loose my *****, because to me that is the scariest thing, I find this a good thing the leash.
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I am not lazy. I can tell you that. Theres not a need in my sons world that I dont fufill, including the most basic of ones. His safety wil ALWAYS be my first priority, so yes when my strong willed, persistant, over achieving wonderful son really starts to walk around in public he will have a backpack tether if its needed. You cant keep your eyes directly on your little ones 24/7 when out grocery shopping, and if you think you can youre not a mom or dad. Ive seen kids of all ages lost or running around a store with parents ignoring it. sure strollers are cool but theres an age where pushing your kid around in one isnt ok either. My son is always moving and may not always want to be confined in a seat. Better him be on a "leash" as you put them than screaming their heads off in a stroller or running around and possibly getting hurt or worse.
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They save a ****** life from a multiple of dangers around them. It's not to degrade them. It's to protect them! Traffic, crowds, dangerous people, dangerous objects, etc. They can watch there ******** with this.

But, I think they should somewhat restrict it. For example, use it on like toddlers and not your eight years olds. Only kids who don't know any better.
And only when you actually NEED it. Taking your ***** to the mailbox on an empty street doesn't require a leash. I mean in crowded areas and near busy streets.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/...

Besides the part about the two young ***** murderers being unusual, there ya go. I'm sure I could find some more screwed up articles for you all to read with older predators, but frankly after reading this one, I don't want to. This is the case that rung a bell in my head because it was so detailed and awful. Now for all you people who say that leashes are a bad idea, try going through what these parents did. This is ALWAYS a possibility and as a parent you will do anything to avoid something like that. Also the leashes aren't around their neck, so chill. In reality, the parents care enough to look "silly" because they will do anything to prevent their ******** from being taken away from them and experiencing heart ache for the rest of their lives.
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I thought the people who used leashes were lazy, non attentive parents who didn't give a rat's **** about their kids, and even gave them ***** looks until the shoe was on the other foot and it was me dealing with the situation. I want to apologize to those that ever caught my disdainful look. I am currently looking for the best harness out there and plan to buy one ASAP and here's why:
I have 3 ******** 13,9,and 2 all boys and I never used a harness on the older 2. The other day when we (just my toddler and I) were getting out of the car in a crowded/busy parking lot, I bent down to pick my toddler up (who was just happy to be out of the car seat) when he decided to try to run (which if you are a parent you know that is going to happen and plan for it) I grabbed him and pulled him to me to pick him up when he threw his head back into my face breaking my nose (yes it's really broken I have a doctors note and everything). I had to promptly put him down and just hold his hand while holding my nose with the other, when he broke free of my grasp and ran into the busy parking lot towards a car whose driver wasn't paying attention, was speeding, and trying to text. I tried to run after him but I knew I wasn't going to make it and tried yelling, and screaming for the car to stop or fo...
I thought the people who used leashes were lazy, non attentive parents who didn't give a rat's **** about their kids, and even gave them ***** looks until the shoe was on the other foot and it was me dealing with the situation. I want to apologize to those that ever caught my disdainful look. I am currently looking for the best harness out there and plan to buy one ASAP and here's why:
I have 3 ******** 13,9,and 2 all boys and I never used a harness on the older 2. The other day when we (just my toddler and I) were getting out of the car in a crowded/busy parking lot, I bent down to pick my toddler up (who was just happy to be out of the car seat) when he decided to try to run (which if you are a parent you know that is going to happen and plan for it) I grabbed him and pulled him to me to pick him up when he threw his head back into my face breaking my nose (yes it's really broken I have a doctors note and everything). I had to promptly put him down and just hold his hand while holding my nose with the other, when he broke free of my grasp and ran into the busy parking lot towards a car whose driver wasn't paying attention, was speeding, and trying to text. I tried to run after him but I knew I wasn't going to make it and tried yelling, and screaming for the car to stop or for my son to stop, as I didn't care at this point which one obeyed, just as long as one of them would. Since my son was giggling and laughing thinking it was a game of "chase the baby and get tickled", I knew he wasn't going to stop even with the authoritative tone in my voice and at that moment I prayed for help. Thank *** for strangers with ******** because a family was walking by and the father went and plucked him up only a few short seconds before getting squished by the car. The woman stopped and yelled at me to control my kid (which is how I know she was texting) and at that moment I felt fear at nearly losing my son, rage at the idiot who nearly ***** his life, and shame for not being able to get to him in time. Had it not been for the kindness of strangers, my beautiful strong willed son would be dead. I have tried everything to stop him from running once out of the car, but he doesn't grasp the concept of what dead means yet. At this point I would rather have a ***** with a harness, who I can teach to understand why we don't run in parking lots, than no ***** at all. I don't plan to use it at the park or on walks but if we go out shopping, or somewhere where my attention needs to be in more than one place at a time, then he will definitely be harnessed at least until he is more understanding of how the world works. I will still continue to hold his hand , as it makes my heart melt when we go walking around holding hands, but I will also have the peace of mind knowing that if he breaks loose of my grasp he will be safe. I am curious as to how many of you who see a ***** screaming and crying in a stroller, because they don't want to be there, give the parent a ***** look because all the screaming is annoying, or think why don't they just let him/her out of the stroller they are just torturing that poor kid." I hate how many people make *********** based on nothing at all but what they think/feel/see without knowing the whole story. Remember people, to ****** is to make an *** out of you(u) and me (lol my parents used this all the time and I never got it until I learned to spell ******). I try to never judge anymore unless I have walked a mile in that persons shoes. Remember we are all human and we all make mistakes, but should the price of my inability to make him stop be his life getting cut short? I think not. I refuse to say anything bad about the people who choose not to use the harness as its all a matter of choice and your personal preference. Good luck to all parents everywhere and may your ******** live long and healthy lives.
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