Your Father spanking you at this age is a direct attack on ego or confidence. At this age some people have the confidence to move out, and others do not. People that have confidence do not perform better at the workplace or any other subject for that matter, but they are happier because they know that they will protect their own ideas and feeling by being strong willed, and protect against being bullied by being physically strong as well. This is a situation where you have to be willing to fight to keep his hands off of you rather then taking a spanking even if that means getting physically hurt. Let us say you are a grown man in Jail, and some guy wants to make you his bride for the night.. His actions aren't going to kill you, but it will damage you mentally for the rest of your life. So in jail you would fight back even though it would be against the rules to do so. Being spanked at this age will leave you scarred forever. Good luck.