Question

Brutally Honest: Is it OK to spy on your kids?

Answer 1

Brutally Honest: YES it is okay to keep track of what your kids are doing at any age, overtly.

Brutally Honest: It is okay to covertly keep track of your own minor ******** or of any age as long as they are living under the parent's roof to make sure they abide by the parents rule.

Brutally Honest: I don't call it spying, I call it parenting.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the situation. If the kid is getting into trouble absolutely. But I have a friend who has extremely overprotective parents. Basically she isn't allowed to date, have any guy friends, etc. She can't go outside without her parents outside with her, and she's definitely not allowed to walk down her road. (She lives out in the country with not much crime rate) she's 18 and has the emotional dependence of a 13 year old

Answer 3

Yes.Its even okay to spy on the parents.Because neveryone should know what everyone is doing ;)

Answer 4

Supervision is necessary for parenting. Spying is a bad idea.

Answer 5

Brutally Honest Yes I do check in on what they are doing and what Ed said my sentiments exactly. it's not spying on them as long as they live under your roof my son tells me to get out of his room, What?????? this whole house is my room so I'm allowed to look in on all of them. if he don't like it that's too bad. when he pays the rent and bills then he can tell me not to look in his room lol his room is on loan to him, he don't own it

Answer 6

Good thoughts yet maybe you need some english lessons?

Answer 7

It is not only OK, it is the parent's duty to know what their kids are involved in.

Answer 8

It depends on the ***** and the level of trust that has been built. Spying can be a tool for parenting but shouldn't have to be.

Answer 9

It's called parental supervision. It's part of being a parent. Cell phones came along after my kids were grown. If they had been around my boys would have had fliptops.

Answer 10

Absolutely. It's required.

Answer 11

Wisdom has the parent establishing trust early, and not violating the trust. Make certain of open, honest communication so the kid KNOWS he/she can talk and be heard, or spoken to and understand!

Answer 12

There's a difference between "spying" and "monitoring." Spying implies that your ***** doesn't know what you're doing and you could surprise them at any time. That's wrong. However, you can tell your ***** "I want to have the password to your social media accounts so I can make sure you're not getting in trouble" and the ***** knows to behave accordingly. But you should not be dishonest with your *****, unless you want to raise a dishonest *****.

Answer 13

I was brought up by a mother who went through all of my things, all of the time. We have never had an open, trusting relationship. I did not go through my kids' drawers, etc when they were teens, I never felt I had to. We had open/honest communication and my husband and I were not judgmental, just gave our opinions on different matters. We had smart kids who stayed out of much trouble. If I had a ***** who was evasive, behavior changes, then I would probably snoop if they didn't want to talk.

Answer 14

If for no other reason than you are financially and legally responsible for any damages they may cause. Of course, the main reason would be to make sure they are not getting involved in drugs or other activities that could ruin their lives.

Answer 15

If the ***** lives at home, yes, under the parents roof, their rules, their laws. If one
raises their ******** right from birth, the ***** will not be untrustworthy and their
will be no good reason to spy. But if a ***** is willful, and doesn't listen to the rules
then a parent not only has the right, but the responsiblity to spy. Parents are resp-
ible for their ******** both morally and finacillay. if a ***** **** up in trouble or on
the wrong side of the law, guess who pays? Yes they have that right.

Answer 16

It's called good parenting.

Answer 17

As long as they are living at home you have every right to know what they are doing.

Answer 18

If I had kids, I wouldn't spy, I'd be up front and make it obvious that I'm looking at what they say online and to other people. I'm not scared to "spy" in their face. That's why you have all these kids trolling and cyberbullying online because parents don't check what their kids do.
I'm not going to be raising an internet bully.

Answer 19

It isn't spying, it is parenting.

Answer 20

I think it destroys the relationship

Answer 21

as long as they are minors and live in my home I am responsible

Answer 22

There is a difference between checking up on your kids like wvery parent should be doing. But If you are a very strict parent who just takes their phone everytime they get a notification. A parent who doesn't let them go anywhere without the CIA there. That is what I'm againist. My mom occasionally checks my messages and thats okay. However, it would be not okay if she didnt trust me. If you have to spy on your kids that means you don't trust them. You should give your give your kids a chance. If he/she proves that they aren't trustworthy, then they need to be spied on.

Answer 23

As long as you are responsible for them, yes.
Once they are self-supporting and independent, no.

Answer 24

It's one thing to keep track on your kids, it's another to spy on them. Please don't spy on them.

Answer 25

Of course. It's irresponsible and uncaring, not to mention lazy if you don't.

Answer 26

They have no right to privacy until they grow up.

Answer 27

Brutally honest - as long as they are minors and they live under my roof - you can bet I will be keeping track of what they are doing - it is called parenting.

Answer 28

Sometimes it's necessary!

Answer 29

I caught my mum reading my journal once, and that bruise in our relationship has never, and will never, heal.

Don't do it.

Answer 30

Perfect example.

Answer 31

If your ***** has given you a REAL reason not to trust them, then yes.
But if not, leave those kids alone. All relationships are built on trust - your ***** will never trust you if you don't trust them.

Answer 32

It is called parenting - as a parent, you are responsible for your minor ******** and you better know what the heck they are doing.

Answer 33

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Answer 34

That is a very good and very tricky question.

Answer 35

Yes parents need to watch over kids it isn't spying it is being a parent . Those that aren't interested enough to keep eyes open at all times shouldn't be parents at all..******** have no rights except to be taken care of by the parents.

Answer 36

It is probably your responsibility to watch and watch out for them.

Answer 37

Nope. A parent-***** relationship should be based on trust.

Answer 38

Have to spy on them!

Answer 39

Your obligation as a parent trumps their right to privacy.

Answer 40

Parent? Yes!

Spy? No!

Answer 41

To a certain point (after about 15 or 16 years of age, you'll want to afford them some privacy ~ even though between 15 and 17 they are still NOT ******). There is spying and there is maintaining situational awareness of your kids/teenagers. ALL parents neeed to be situationally aware of what their teenagers are doing.
Here's a suggestion for ALL parents with teenagers (between 15 and 17 years of age). Ask them this question: "Except for murder, what is the worst thing you could do right now?" If the girl answers "Getting pregnant" that means she is already having ***. If the boy answers "Get a girl pregnant" he's already having ***.