11 Ways to Calm Down an Angry Woman: Which One Works Best?

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asked Aug 18, 2016 in Living by admin (21,720 points)
First of all, I didn't include "All of the Above" to make this Poll have purpose, Okay, let's move on. Yes, 1.5 million women are physically assaulted by their partners every year, but so are 835,000 men, according to the Centers for Disease Control. Next time your little honeybee turns mad as a hornet, here's how to stop the buzzing before her fire turns to fight. You've already tried pretending to be invisible, right? How'd that work?

1. Lower Your Thermostat
Whatever you do, don't get angry. Surprisingly enough, she won't consider it righteous; she'll just get more pissed off, and a little self-righteous besides. If you feel yourself heating up, just remember that "she can't make you angry," says Paul Hauck, Ph.D.

2. Don't Feed Her Data
"A man generally tries to win an argument by coming up with facts that are totally meaningless to her" Fact: She will never listen to you.

3. Own Up . . . Maturely
Simply admit that you are wrong, whether you were actually right or wrong.

4. Tune In
"If she has a big problem," says Hauck, "you'd better listen." And don't wait till swords are drawn. Like an orgasm, anger follows a bell curve—at the top you're completely out of your mind. So if you're seeing signs of frustration (a sigh or roll of the eyes), you'd better start listening quick, for the apex is near and things are about to go downhill fast.

5. Take a Step Back
"You don't have to agree," says Staver. "But acknowledge her perceptions as real. It shows that you respect her." Often, her anger is triggered because she believes something's 1) unfair, 2) out of her control, or 3) a personal attack. Address these concerns.

6. Assert Your Eyes
If you can't make eye contact, it means you're becoming angry. But if you can, it shows you're listening. Psychologists have seen a classic pattern in marital fights: The wife gets mad, the husband shuts down, the wife goes nuts. You shut down because you want to avoid a battle, but she thinks you're avoiding intimacy.

7. Get Engaged
Ask questions. "It shows you're listening, and it implies you want to listen to her more," says Staver.

8. Use Magic Phrases
Heitler suggests three: Yes, I agree. You're right. I'm sorry. Nothing disarms an attacker faster than taking her side. So find something, anything, to agree on. We're not suggesting you cave in, but find some small plot of common ground.


9. Use Anger as a Meter
Know when an argument is about to start before it starts. It can alert you to a problem. Change the subject quickly, it might save you one year of Anger Management classes and 3 years of probation.

10. Set Limits
You get the behavior you tolerate. If her rage is a little too melodramatic, a little too frequent, a little too abusive... maybe is your fault she is angry at you because you spoil her or treat her like crap too much. Balance my friend, is a virtue.

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19 Answers

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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Here is the simplest way to calm me down if he pisses me off. Just shut up! Don't leave the room, just sit there and shut up!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
This poll has nothing to do with men who are violent towards women. For them, the answer is easy. Terror trumps anger. For the rest of us men, confonting an angry woman is infinitely more delecate. The threat of violence is something men are socialized to use with each other as children; it does everything but go away as we become adults. Most men have a particular aversion to striking women, even when seriously threatened. This question is not a social issue that needs action, it's just a curiosity about how to deal with a regular, every day type of thing that people, usually men, have trouble with.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
undecided
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Magic phrases. I think that'll do the trick. if you're agreeing with her.. do not smile!!! she'll think you're making fun of her!!! be gentle, don't shout but keep a serious face. It works for my husband.. lol.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Don't pretend to listen or play the dumb game Yes anything you say shit it won't work. I want him to listen and to answer me when were having this fight. because I hate fighting over nothing but if it's big He better have those ears opened
Great question Peter
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
throw out a bar of chocolate and run!!!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
that just paints you as a spineless pussy in her eyes. this tactic will lead to her losing all respect for you.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Definitely own up. Even if you think your right. People don't just get that pissed and on others on a whim. If someone is coming at you like that just own up. It's the same as acknowleding the issue and it shows maturity and a willingness to address it. If for some reason it turns out you really are the innocent party (lol right...) apologies are more likely to come forward because of your willingness to.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Compliment her hair.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Um, the article said that 1.5 million women are assaulted and over 800,00 men - so the point was that both sides need to learn how to diffuse the situation and this particular article was telling men how to better deal with an angry women. For dealing with angry men, maybe try Cosmo. Oh wait, I just committed argument mistake #2 on the list - providing facts. I guess I didn't attention to the article either.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
All of these are bad. Do people think women are dumb enough to not see through these lame attempts at just shutting us up? If you tell me I'm right and you're wrong, I want to know WHY you think so, because if you can't answer that, then you're just saying it to shut me up, and that's not right. If you think you're right, say so. Let's hash it out. No woman wants a man who is just going to lay down.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
why a picture of an angry woman if it is the men who are doing the violence? shouldn't his violent angry picture be here? if this is not a sexist question, then you must be preparing for a stint on comedy central
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I may do all the wrong things, but I don't see the point in making her feel better when she is wrong as that just reinforces whatever the problem was. But, I'm an insensitive jerk who never gives her even 15 minutes of my time, never provides any support, doesn't understand what anything means to her and cares about everything else more than her (or so I was told on Tuesday).
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I think if you keep arguments intelligent and civil, more is accomplished and she doesn't blow up. Listen to her side, and explain your side, in the end even if you don't agree, you'll understand how the other feels so a future similar argument/situation can be avoided. She'll lose a lot of respect for you if you shut down, or yell, or disregard her feelings by changing the subject or just trying to get her to shut up. The guy she cheats on you with or leaves you for is the guy who'll listen to her.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Depends on the woman and the situation. If she gets angry about a grievence, that one thing, if it's out of general frustration, that's another, and face it, some women are just spoiled brats that throw tantrums just to get attention.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
all are good
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
better use a little of all the above.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
WALK AWAY, best thing you can do.Other wise you put fuel to the fire and argue, then you get what you deserve.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
This is hilarious!
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