Are You Supporting an Adult Child?

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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
My daughter, finishing her forth year in college. As for the others, who assumed they were too cool for school (college), they only get verbal encouragement, high fives, and prayers. NO "adult" old enough to be a high school graduate should be babied into becoming a grown dependent (aka Democrat).
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I paid for 10 years, a car computer repairs etc. and today she is to busy for old Dad and Mom, anyone else experience this, wish I could redo the support for college, ungrateful self centered.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Your child is your child. You better be supportive if necessary.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
we call him our president.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
We do have an adopted daughter with CP she is special needs with a big loving heart everyone loves her. The fact is some kids need your help others are just damn lazy spoiled brats, who is to blame?
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Seeing as I'm not even an adult yet, it would be quite odd if I had adult children.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
No. I'm proud to say my four grown children are all self-supporting and doing quite well. I couldn't be prouder of them.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Partly. Well, our S-i-law is still in school, so my daughter gets some help from us. Soon after he finishes (next year), and gets a job, we'll have to remove the subsidy.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I hear.

And it scares me.

I would just show up at her house one day. Are there grandkids yet?
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I am not universally known as a Futurist; however, I contend that I should be held in high regard for making the conscious decision not to adored by an adult child depending upon me ever.... I abstained from having offspring.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Not really. She gets money on her birthday and Christmas, and that's pretty much it.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Only supporting myself and a dog.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I don't have children at all and never will because it is immoral to do so.

"Each one of us was harmed by being brought into existence. That harm is not negligible, because the quality of even the best lives is very bad - and considerably worse than most people recognize it to be. Although it is obviously too late to prevent our own existence, it is not too late to prevent the existence of future possible people. Creating new people is thus morally problematic." - David Benatar; Better Never to Have Been: The Harm of Coming into Existence.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
It is not too late for you to take charge and end your own immoral existance

You can take others with you toi then you will improve the moral mixture
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I am delighted that you chose not to breed; whew!!!!!!
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
While I don't share your beliefs, thankfully, it is a personal choice whether or not to have children. I say thankfully because it would be depressing as hell to subscribe to that one AND because my family and I have been happy and experienced life fully without worrying about what others think.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Better to accept a depressing reality (which reality is depressing) than to live in a delusion of optimism.

There is no such thing as happy. There is only the temporary absence of pain. That's all life consists of: pain and suffering with short bouts of relief. I resent my parents for bringing me into this world, and will, when I can afford the means necessary, undo that action in a dignified and painless fashion.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Well he works for me and lives here. I buy most of the food and pay the bills.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I don't have children.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
... but have 2 raised, out of the nest, and flying independently.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
No. Hubby's daughters both did very well for themselves.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Not now but I did help to support my sons when they went to university. It was really hard as money was tight but well worth it all in the end.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
No
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I have only me blame... I married her... meaning, she's an adult that acts like a child...
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
No but I have my adult daughter living with me but she works for her living .
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
The picture is silly, its showing parents disappointed with their son for moving back home and their son miserable for being some kind of failure when they should be embracing him and loving him, its actually all wrong in a sense. Its us adults that are the failures because we allowed the cost of living (Rent, food, gas, tuition) to sky rocket and did nothing about it. We allowed jobs to move overseas and did not punish companies for doing so, instead we rewarded them by still buying there products. We are not only allowing are manufacturing jobs to go overseas but now our core corporate jobs and middle management jobs as well. No my dear friends that picture above should be the other way around. We as older adults are still the stewards of this country and need to get tougher and fight back. The middle class are being evicted from our cities because we allow the 1% to pick the president and dictate an economic policy that only works for them and slowly drives all else into slavery and poverty. The 1% are living their dream while the American people pay for it and its wrong. Now it is making it harder for young adults to get their own place, why? Because the average rent in a rural area is almost 1000 per month, in a city its 1500, and food and gas is way high. When they leave...
The picture is silly, its showing parents disappointed with their son for moving back home and their son miserable for being some kind of failure when they should be embracing him and loving him, its actually all wrong in a sense. Its us adults that are the failures because we allowed the cost of living (Rent, food, gas, tuition) to sky rocket and did nothing about it. We allowed jobs to move overseas and did not punish companies for doing so, instead we rewarded them by still buying there products. We are not only allowing are manufacturing jobs to go overseas but now our core corporate jobs and middle management jobs as well. No my dear friends that picture above should be the other way around. We as older adults are still the stewards of this country and need to get tougher and fight back. The middle class are being evicted from our cities because we allow the 1% to pick the president and dictate an economic policy that only works for them and slowly drives all else into slavery and poverty. The 1% are living their dream while the American people pay for it and its wrong. Now it is making it harder for young adults to get their own place, why? Because the average rent in a rural area is almost 1000 per month, in a city its 1500, and food and gas is way high. When they leave college they have debt. After college they land a job making 40 grand but are single and pay 40% to taxes which leaves them about 25 grand a year - 12 grand for rent =13 grand for the year, also gas food and other expenses not to mention the loan for school. This is why kids are moving back. Not because of them its because we have become sheep and the one percent and landlords are our Shepard's and they are shepherding us into poverty and our kids into the street.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
No, because I'm not a parent, but my parents are still supporting my 18 year old sister. That may seem young enough that it would be normal, but normal would be just still living at home. She's been out of home for over a year now, living at colleges first in other Aussie states, then over in New York, and the whole time they have funded her rent and her school fees.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
The deal was, we paid tuition, they covered everything else including a job after graduation. Come home for visits, but don't bring laundry and don't move in. It worked then and works today. All three grown children made it on their own after college.
I refused to relinquish our retirement nest egg to educated children.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
LOL - it sure is - kind of like military intelligence.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
They all support themselves.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Nobody is. Adult and child are binary opposites.

You can no more be an adult child than a giant midget, an amphibious mammal, or a principled Democrat... ;)
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Nope, I raised them to be independent.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I still live with my dad but I have a full time job, buy my own things and contribute to bill paying.
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
I made a conscious decision to not have children specifically for the reason that I didn't want to deal with those types of circumstances....
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
What's an adult child?
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
Umm… Isn't adult child an oxymoron?
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answered Aug 18, 2016 by Anonymous (2,293,500 points)
And why is it better? Seems like it made you perfectly miserable. As for there being no such thing as happy, that's just total nonsense from a chronically depressed nutter; I can personally attest to being deliriously happy many times in my life, and the feeling is so much more than 'the temporary absence of pain'. Simple neurochemistry can attest to that. I feel sorry for you, you might want to get some help.
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